FoxyWomaninCa1974@webtv.net (foxy woman) wrote in message news:<20094-416E4780-171@storefull-3173.bay.webtv.net>...
im in a very bad marriage im scared of the hubby he makes certain
threats to me and i dont wanna be with him anymore he scares me he
mentally hurts me...i work 5 days a week he stays at home collecting
unemployment wont find work ...but i need and want to divorce him but i
dont have the money ..he tells me hes going to do certain things if i
dont follow his orders ..im just so scared but i have nowhere to go
.but i need to get this done ..but im scared for myself ....what do i
do ? we are behind in our rent because he isnt working and im the one
footing the bills he pays a little but i want out of this so called and
i dont know where to start ...i dont want to be living on the street but
i cant take living in this situation anymore ....i need some advice on
what to do from here ..im so scared of him....thank you for reading
this
If that "Ca" in your handle means you live in California, get to your
county's Domestic Violence hotline as soon as you can. There's a list
by county and city at
http://www.safestate.org/documents/hotline_list.pdf and another by
county at http://www.dhs.ca.gov/epic/fvrefer/
No one thing you can do is by itself enough to stop a determined
abuser. The state recommends that people in your situation get a
"safety plan" together; see
http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/protection/dv/,
http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/protection/dv/safetyplan.htm#whatis,
and http://www.safestate.org/ for more.
Some things you can do:
If he's the sort who has enough sense to honor a court order, and you
have a well-founded fear that he will do you harm, you can get a
Domestic Violence Restraining Order quickly. This could, for example,
require him to move out and stay away.
You can get ready to run. if you do this, you need to do it quickly
and quietly, because the most dangerous period is from the time he
finds out to the time you get out. The Safety Plan links above list
concrete steps to take so that you will not be lost and destitute when
you run.
--
Not a lawyer,
Chris Green
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