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Greetings:
My now ex-girlfriend recently filed for a temporary restraining order
against me because in her words -- "it's the only way I know that
will force me to stop calling you..." In short, she loves me, but
doesn't want to, and this is her solution. (Lucky me.)
And she used me phoning her a half dozen times over a week's time
after one of our many break-ups as evidence of me "harassing" her...
I should also mention she's filed for at least 7 other restraining
orders
in the past that I know of...
My question is this:
Are restraining orders public record? Or do they become public
record only if the restrained party is in violation of the order?
I ask this because I frankly don't care if I'm not allowed to
contact her, etc, as long as it's not public record. And though
I feel confident that I could defend myself in the upcoming
hearing, I'm hestitant to incite her because she's unstable,
violent, and is in the middle of a legal mess herself (eviction,
threats against neighbors, etc)...And I know that if I don't
go to the hearing, there's a good chance the order will become
permanent (or for 3 years?)...
Thanks.
J.
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I have it on good authority that on 15 Oct 2006 20:43:55 -0700,
curlylaca@yahoo.com wrote:
Greetings:
My now ex-girlfriend recently filed for a temporary restraining order
against me because in her words -- "it's the only way I know that
will force me to stop calling you..."
She's filed a TRO against you, yet she is the one calling? Am
I reading this right?
In short, she loves me, but
doesn't want to, and this is her solution. (Lucky me.)
And she used me phoning her a half dozen times over a week's time
after one of our many break-ups as evidence of me "harassing" her...
If you've broken up, why call? I've never understood that
action.
I should also mention she's filed for at least 7 other restraining
orders
in the past that I know of...
I don't see that being of any relevance in regard to her
seeking one with you.
My question is this:
Are restraining orders public record? Or do they become public
record only if the restrained party is in violation of the order?
The violation, if charges are brought, will be. Best course
of action is to obey the order. Go to the extreme in following it.
If you see her down the street, turn around and go the other way.
I ask this because I frankly don't care if I'm not allowed to
contact her, etc, as long as it's not public record. And though
I feel confident that I could defend myself in the upcoming
hearing, I'm hestitant to incite her because she's unstable,
violent, and is in the middle of a legal mess herself (eviction,
threats against neighbors, etc)...And I know that if I don't
go to the hearing, there's a good chance the order will become
permanent (or for 3 years?)...
If you don't go to the hearing, you'll lose by default.
--
Kent
Do what the android says! The android's word is law!
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Greetings:
My now ex-girlfriend recently filed for a temporary restraining order
against me because in her words -- "it's the only way I know that
will force me to stop calling you..." In short, she loves me, but
doesn't want to, and this is her solution. (Lucky me.)
And she used me phoning her a half dozen times over a week's time
after one of our many break-ups as evidence of me "harassing" her...
I should also mention she's filed for at least 7 other restraining
orders
in the past that I know of...
Dude, leave her alone and move on.
If she REALLY loves you, then let her make the first call, if she hates you,
then she won't call. Either way, it will prove just exactly how committed to
you that she really is.
It matters not what you think about the order, it only matter that she
managed to get one. If you let it go, then it doesn't matter how long the
order lasts because you won't be calling several times a week in violation
of the order.
I don't want to sound judgemental, but my take is that your "little head"
(and her love tunnel) drove the relationship for too long, and now the
little head and the love tunnel are not on good terms anymore, and the rest
of the relationship shows the strain. That's what happens in far too many
relationships these days. (And, before you judge me, my wife and I have been
married -- faithfully -- for 22 years, so I know what happens when the big
head is in charge of decision making.) Now that the big heads are not
getting along, take a bye and move on with life. If she loves you, let HER
violate the order, not you.
My question is this:
Are restraining orders public record? Or do they become public
record only if the restrained party is in violation of the order?
I ask this because I frankly don't care if I'm not allowed to
contact her, etc, as long as it's not public record. And though
I feel confident that I could defend myself in the upcoming
hearing, I'm hestitant to incite her because she's unstable,
violent, and is in the middle of a legal mess herself (eviction,
threats against neighbors, etc)...And I know that if I don't
go to the hearing, there's a good chance the order will become
permanent (or for 3 years?)...
Thanks.
J.
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Yes, it's a matter of public record. All court documents, with the
exception of those filed under seal, those in juvenile dependency court, and
juvenile crimes are a matter of public record.
Greetings:
My now ex-girlfriend recently filed for a temporary restraining order
against me because in her words -- "it's the only way I know that
will force me to stop calling you..." In short, she loves me, but
doesn't want to, and this is her solution. (Lucky me.)
And she used me phoning her a half dozen times over a week's time
after one of our many break-ups as evidence of me "harassing" her...
I should also mention she's filed for at least 7 other restraining
orders
in the past that I know of...
My question is this:
Are restraining orders public record? Or do they become public
record only if the restrained party is in violation of the order?
I ask this because I frankly don't care if I'm not allowed to
contact her, etc, as long as it's not public record. And though
I feel confident that I could defend myself in the upcoming
hearing, I'm hestitant to incite her because she's unstable,
violent, and is in the middle of a legal mess herself (eviction,
threats against neighbors, etc)...And I know that if I don't
go to the hearing, there's a good chance the order will become
permanent (or for 3 years?)...
Thanks.
J.
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if the courts grant her the restraining order
its on your record, take from me, first hand experience...... every
time, i mean
every single time my criminal back ground
is ran, whether it be a job interview
or a peace officer, IT NEVER FAILS...
THEY SAY WHAT THIS ABOUT?
YOU HAVE A RESTRAINING ORDER
WHY................. I HATE IT .....
it makes me look like ...... it just leads
people to the wrong conclusion, especially at a job background check...
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